Discernment Counseling for Couples on the Brink
You are facing a difficult decision. Should you divorce, or should you seek out help and continue to work on your marriage? It’s a tough situation, and one with no easy answers. Before you make your decision, Discernment Counseling is here to help. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and really look at your options for your marriage.
Discernment Counseling is for people who aren’t sure what to do. One person is “leaning out” of the relationship – skeptical if regular marriage counseling would help. The other person is “leaning in” – interested in rebuilding the marriage. Discernment Counseling is a new approach that will help you decide whether to try to restore the health of your marriage, move toward divorce, or step back and decide later. By gaining a deeper understanding of your relationship, the goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence in your decisions, direction, and future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems, but to see if they are solvable.
Everyone begins this journey from a different place and with a different perspective. You and your partner will both be treated with compassion and respect regardless of how each of you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. There are no good guys and no bad guys.
While you may begin counseling as a couple, the one-on-one conversations with the counselor are of the utmost importance. The counselor seeks to emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. They respect your reasons for divorce, but also seek to open up the possibility of restoring your marriage to health.
Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent are 1.5 or 2 hours.
Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:
• When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
• When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
• When there is danger of domestic violence